The lag of male immaturity!

So Ladies... what if there is a guy that is just perfectly what you want.  He is smart, funny, financially stable, educated, loves life, sports, movies, cute, great kisser and pretty much fills the majority of the boxes.  However, He is just too immature to be in a serious relationship.  And he is well aware of it.  Its so confusing.

So one guy I have dated on and off through the summer is a pretty interesting guy... And in writing and in person almost fills all the boxes...

He broke things off back in July... kinda of shitty because he broke up over text... yes I am serious.   (thats where the immaturity starts or really ended)

However, as I was in a drunken stooper at We-Fest, I text him and asked why he couldn't be a man and pick up the damn phone...

His reponse:  "I know I am a pussy.  But the door isn't fully closed for me so don't be surprised if I call you down the road.  The choice is yours if you answer."  What the hell does that mean!?

So even though it was a shitty dump text, I answered his text today.  He was upset because I "de-friended" him from facebook.  (I did delete him because I really didn't want to know what he was doing)  I responded.. "I didn't know I wasn't suppose to do that.  Are we friend?  I don't remember hanging out as friends."  Then of course he asked if he could see me...

He still makes me nervous, with butterfly's and excited to see him.  The whole drive to his house my stomach was in knots.. I mean, normal guys don't do this to me.  I barely get nervous for blind dates... But he does this to me.. AND I HATE IT!

None-the-less, we had an enjoyable time.  It was great to see him and catch up, I forgot how cute he is.  PLUS he is an amazing kisser, among many great talents (which you can let your mind wander) ;)

As the evening was coming to an end the phone rang, his buddy was calling to see if he was meeting them out.  Then his friend goes, is your girl still there?  WHAT?? girl, who, me?  Someone has been talking about me.  Interesting.. As we all know girls guys don't talk about random girls, they talk about girls they are interested in...

Then asked if he could see me tomorrow... I responded... "not unless we hang out outside of your apartment"  he said... "like dinner? or something?"  I said "just something.  I am not interested in being a booty call or just a random girl with you."  

So here the conversation starts about why he broke things off in July...  He literally said, and I quote.  "I am fucking immature Sam, I thought I wanted something serious and then we started getting there and I just am not ready... I want to go out and have some more fun guy single time."  So I looked at him and said "Fuck girls"  right logical to what he was talking about... He comes back to me and says... "Sam, your the only person I have been with in a long time and I don't randomly date people, I called you tonight because I wanted to see you."  me: "for the wrong reasons".  Him: "I still called you, I am a all or nothing type person and I want you around, but I am not quite ready for all yet, just give me time and enjoy the moments we do have.  If I am going to go all in, I just want to make sure I am going to try with the right person."  me:  "How do you know its the right person if you don't spend time with them?"

UGH! really... I mean I have been there before with another guy. I have no desire to wait around, however I do know he doesn't date other girls and he talks to his friends about me.  I even know he told his best friend that I was his soulmate kisser (whatever the hell that means) during a lovely golf game of theirs...

What does it all mean.  Is it all bull shit?  Or could it be something AMAZING...

He said he will call me tomorrow, we will see if he follows up... but don't worry ladies, I am sticking to my guns, either a date or nothing!

Love and War
Samantha

Wanna Split the Check!

Hey All -

I am going to start out with a dating experience I literally had on Tuesday night.

I am currently on Match.com and I have been talking to this guy for about 3 weeks.  We have really just been chatting over facebook and text because he can't seem to figure out how to pick up a phone.  This should have been my first sign that he was a real winner.  Anyways he was somewhat persistent about wanting to get together and with my busy schedule we finally worked dinner in.

We just decided to hit up TGI Friday's.  Nothing to extravagant is fine with me.  

So I arrive right on time and he was already there and had a table.  He stood up and gave me a hug.  At first glance he was totally cute, about 5'9", average guy with dark hair shaved short with a goatee and wonderful blue eyes.  The conversation started out good, smooth and nice.

Finally we ordered.  I ordered friday's shrimp ($10.99) and he ordered a burger and a blue moon tall ($16.99).  I am adding the prices in there because they come in handy later in the story.

The conversation continued to be nice.  We talked about sports (which I like), his recent vacation to Colorado, my upcoming vacation to New York City, the state fair, work and few other random things.  He also talked about being a video game geek (second red alert warning).  About an hour into the evening the manager came to drop off our check and gave us a $10 gift card with our meal (some sort of promotion).  The manager literally left the bill open in the center of the table.  There was no way in hell I was touching that bill.

Note to Self Ladies:  As somewhat a traditionalist I believe it is of proper order that a guy always pays for the first dinner, if not the first few dates.  ESPECIALLY if they ask you to get together.  But remember this is my blog my point of view. 

So we continued to chat, for over an hour after the bill had been dropped off at our table.  And don't get me wrong I felt the date was going fine, not sure if there were sparks but still enjoyable.  Finally, he said well I guess we should maybe pay.  He took the $10 gift card and put it in his wallet (oh wait it gets better)...  Then he asked me to split the check!  The total bill was $28.  

TWENTY EIGHT DOLLARS!

So I conceded and said yes I would split the bill, but as I was paying I realized I paid $14 and a $3 tip so $17 for a $10 meal...   So he paid $14 and a $3 tip plus got a $10 Gift Card... so he really paid $8... Ok sorry for all the math but WHAT A BULL SHIT situation.  He asks me to dinner and I end up paying most of the bill..  I just kinda blew it off and just thought to myself how disappointing it was that he had to end dinner that way.  

But as we were walking outside to our cars, he was parked further south in the lot than I was.  I  assumed he was following to at least give a hug and say thanks for meeting up.  I turned around when I got to my car door and he was half way across the lot.  He literally took off in the direction of his car and waved and said "thanks and talk to you on facebook!"  All I could think to myself was WTF... Seriously... 

Then I got into my car and sat there a second and was like... Was I really that bad that he had to run away from me in the parking lot.  I gave him no hint that I was interested in a kiss or anything of that sort.. but you start with a hug end with a hug at the least.  I mean how does a date with a guy that is obviously NOT a winner go and make me feel crappy about myself.  I mean this guy made me feel like he was running away from me... For the hour after I got home I just replayed the evening and couldn't seem to figure out where I made him think I was crazy or something.  lol...   It has nothing to do with being interested in him or liking him.  But its almost as though he made me feel like it was a dreadful 2 hours for him and no one wants to make anyone feel like that.   

None the less ladies... Don't get discouraged.  These situations almost have to make you laugh at how immature men are still in there late 20's.   Thank god I am smart enough to see the warning signs now right! 

So watch out for Video gamer, splitting the check cheapo man!

Samantha

The start of a life long vent session!

Hi!  My name is Samantha.

I am a 29 years old, single, independent, ambitious, caring, honest, loving, serial dater, looking for Mr. Right woman with no children.  As most single woman my age I have been through all types of interesting dating situations and dispensable men.  We have all been there right?:

First Loves
Simple First Kisses
Best Friend Benefits
Long Distance Relationship
Rebound Hottie
Serial Dating Randoms
Too Emotional/Drama Queen of a man
Go Dutch with me Man
Older Sexier Man
Mr. What you want but he don't want you
Initiate What?
Online Dating Chaos

All these types of men and situations suck... Dating has literally taken me from being madly in love to deeply depressed.  It sometimes has me wondering if its just me or if I just haven't been in the right place at the right time.   How do we figure out the best way to Mr. Right?  Well, to be honest, I can't help you with that.  All I can do is take through some fascinating dating experiences I have been through.  Maybe make you laugh, cry, hate life or learn to love again.  Because through all these situations I still want to find love and am willing to risk my heart along the way...


To the start of a great friendship and life long vent session

Samantha