Wanna Split the Check!

Hey All -

I am going to start out with a dating experience I literally had on Tuesday night.

I am currently on Match.com and I have been talking to this guy for about 3 weeks.  We have really just been chatting over facebook and text because he can't seem to figure out how to pick up a phone.  This should have been my first sign that he was a real winner.  Anyways he was somewhat persistent about wanting to get together and with my busy schedule we finally worked dinner in.

We just decided to hit up TGI Friday's.  Nothing to extravagant is fine with me.  

So I arrive right on time and he was already there and had a table.  He stood up and gave me a hug.  At first glance he was totally cute, about 5'9", average guy with dark hair shaved short with a goatee and wonderful blue eyes.  The conversation started out good, smooth and nice.

Finally we ordered.  I ordered friday's shrimp ($10.99) and he ordered a burger and a blue moon tall ($16.99).  I am adding the prices in there because they come in handy later in the story.

The conversation continued to be nice.  We talked about sports (which I like), his recent vacation to Colorado, my upcoming vacation to New York City, the state fair, work and few other random things.  He also talked about being a video game geek (second red alert warning).  About an hour into the evening the manager came to drop off our check and gave us a $10 gift card with our meal (some sort of promotion).  The manager literally left the bill open in the center of the table.  There was no way in hell I was touching that bill.

Note to Self Ladies:  As somewhat a traditionalist I believe it is of proper order that a guy always pays for the first dinner, if not the first few dates.  ESPECIALLY if they ask you to get together.  But remember this is my blog my point of view. 

So we continued to chat, for over an hour after the bill had been dropped off at our table.  And don't get me wrong I felt the date was going fine, not sure if there were sparks but still enjoyable.  Finally, he said well I guess we should maybe pay.  He took the $10 gift card and put it in his wallet (oh wait it gets better)...  Then he asked me to split the check!  The total bill was $28.  

TWENTY EIGHT DOLLARS!

So I conceded and said yes I would split the bill, but as I was paying I realized I paid $14 and a $3 tip so $17 for a $10 meal...   So he paid $14 and a $3 tip plus got a $10 Gift Card... so he really paid $8... Ok sorry for all the math but WHAT A BULL SHIT situation.  He asks me to dinner and I end up paying most of the bill..  I just kinda blew it off and just thought to myself how disappointing it was that he had to end dinner that way.  

But as we were walking outside to our cars, he was parked further south in the lot than I was.  I  assumed he was following to at least give a hug and say thanks for meeting up.  I turned around when I got to my car door and he was half way across the lot.  He literally took off in the direction of his car and waved and said "thanks and talk to you on facebook!"  All I could think to myself was WTF... Seriously... 

Then I got into my car and sat there a second and was like... Was I really that bad that he had to run away from me in the parking lot.  I gave him no hint that I was interested in a kiss or anything of that sort.. but you start with a hug end with a hug at the least.  I mean how does a date with a guy that is obviously NOT a winner go and make me feel crappy about myself.  I mean this guy made me feel like he was running away from me... For the hour after I got home I just replayed the evening and couldn't seem to figure out where I made him think I was crazy or something.  lol...   It has nothing to do with being interested in him or liking him.  But its almost as though he made me feel like it was a dreadful 2 hours for him and no one wants to make anyone feel like that.   

None the less ladies... Don't get discouraged.  These situations almost have to make you laugh at how immature men are still in there late 20's.   Thank god I am smart enough to see the warning signs now right! 

So watch out for Video gamer, splitting the check cheapo man!

Samantha